You make mistakes, but you're not a mistake.
You have problems, but you're not a problem.
You have distractions, but you're not a distraction.
You have accidents, but you're not an accident.
You lie, but you're not a lie.
You're embarrassed, but you're not an embarrassment.
You have imperfections, but you're perfect.

Never think of yourself equal to what you do or what you did. You're worth much more than that. Do not blame yourself for everything that happens in your life and for things that you cannot control. Sometimes things don't turn out to be the way we want them to, but that doesn't give us the permission to hold ourselves accountable for every wrong happening.

If other people blame you for the things you're not responsible for and have no control over, don't dwell on the things they say because they will only make you lonely. Don't let the opinions of other people dictate the way you live your life. Always remember that you can't please everybody, so you might as well please yourself. After all, at the end of the day, the only happiness that's gonna matter is yours. Not anyone else's.

Here are things I always remind myself of whenever I feel like a despicable human being. I just want to share them with you, because I know you have your not-so-good moments too. Become a better person in terms of communicating and interacting with others, to avoid chaos, fights, and arguments. This is a list I came up with, it's nothing official, but I hope it will be as helpful to you as it is to me. ☺

1. Learn to accept your mistakes and apologize if necessary. Most of us take apologies for granted. A mistake doesn't have to be an extensive life-wrecking crime for us to apologize for it. Even a simple bump or an accidental infliction of physical pain requires a simple "sorry". Causing emotional and mental pain, on the other hand, may require much more than mouthing a "sorry". Nevertheless, apologize. Or at least try. We won't always be forgiven, but we never know how badly some people wait for our apologies. NEVER forget to be sincere in every apology you make because an apology that doesn't come from the heart is worse than not apologizing at all.

2. Forgive. If we apologize, then it's just right that we forgive. No matter how heavy the pain they caused us. We don't know how much our forgiveness means to other people. Always remember that God can forgive sinful men and if He can do it, who are we to deprive others of forgiveness?

3. Do not be judgmental. Be curious instead. We don't want to be judged, so we might as well don't judge others. I admit it's not easy to avoid being judgmental, but whenever I feel the need to judge someone, I remind myself that he/she has a reasonable explanation why he/she is that way.

4. Be honest. As cliche as it may sound, honesty is the best policy. Always remember to tell the truth, no matter how much the truth may hurt. Sugarcoating lies is the worst way to make someone feel good. Keep in mind that honesty goes a loooooong way.

5. Put yourself in the other person's shoes. Empathize with other people. Before saying something, always think of how you would feel if others would tell you the same. Be more understanding, more sensitive, and more aware of the feelings of others. You are not the only one who feels pain or sadness.

6. YOU DO NOT HAVE HATERS. Yes others may not like you, but do not refer to them as your "haters". They are merely people who don't like you. Instead of ranting about how awful they are and show the world how unhealthy you've become, try to confront them. In that way, they will see that you don't want to be involved in  a fight where you act as juveniles INDIRECTLY calling each other bitches on social media. And that instead, you want to settle arguments like a decent human being.

7. Be the person you want to meet. This is the simplest way of becoming a better person. Be the friend you want to have. If you want a kind friend, be one. If you want an understanding friend, be one. If you want to meet someone forgiving, be forgiving. Don't ask for anything you wouldn't demand from yourself. If everybody will start to think like this, everything will be a lot easier.

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