I've always thought about making an A-Z list, and what better topic to write about than improvement of self esteem? I know I always write about this, but I write what I want to write and I want to write about this. LOL. A lot of people suffer about feeling insecure so I hope this helps xx

Accept compliments. Instead of shrugging every time somebody calls you cute, smile and say thanks! say thank you! Not "I know" or "Really?" You'd feel much better, and so would the person who complimented you :)

Be Yourself. Working on self confidence will be useless if you're trying to create an image untrue to who you really are. You can't be confident when you know you're only being liked and applauded because you're pretending to be somebody else. Andre Gide once said that "It's better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not." and we both know he's right.

Consent from you is the root of inferiority and insecurity. According to Eleanor Roosevelt, nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. Do not let anybody dictate the way you see you.

Don't ever compare yourself to others. Don't. Even. Dare. We have individual differences and you should focus on what makes you you instead of what you don't have that he/she does.

Everybody has insecurities. Even Beyonce has them. But have you ever seen her be anything less than ***Flawless?? Point is, you are not the only person who suffers from insecurities so don't feel bad because it's a normal thing, a rite of passage, even. Just don't dwell on it long enough to allow it to take over you.


Flaunt your flaws. You have freckles? Pimples? Extra scars? They look amazing. You weigh more than you want to? So sexaaayyy! You're too short? Too tall? Werk it!

Give yourself some credit. Hey, shout out to you for surviving until today! A round of applause for you! Simple things matter and you should give yourself credit for doing them!

Have courage to speak up. Whenever you think people go too far, tell them to stop. Don't ever feel the need to bottle things up because they will eventually lead to inferiority which later leads to depression! Speak up and let people know when they should shut up.


It's all in the mind. If you believe you are incapable of being a person of value, then there is a huge possibility that you are incapable. However if no matter how hard it is to find a splash of hope, you still believe in yourself and the things you know you can do and overcome, then I can guarantee that you can, and you will be able to do all the things you put your heart into.

Just do it. You don't need permission from everybody to do what you want. You're given the freedom to do anything under the sun and if ever people judge you for doing so, tell them to mind their own bizness.

Know your talents. Knowing that you're good at something is one of the best ways to be confident. We all have talents. You may be good at singing or baking or eating ten hamburgers in fifteen minutes. No matter how bizarre and insignificant you think they are, always remember they're talents and you're best at doing them ;)

Learn to laugh it off. Sometimes we get so insecure because we take everything too seriously. Have some sense of humor! But of course, whenever you think the jokes get too far, speak up and let them know you're not okay with it. We're all sensitive about something anyway.

Make a list of the things you like about yourself. No matter how insecure you are there's surely one thing you like about you. Your hair? Maybe your nails? Or your feet? Your ability to walk on hot coals? Idk. But dig deep into that brain of yours and list down all the  things that you like about you. Always carry the list wherever you go so the next time you feel inferior, you'll be reminded that you're much more than what you think.

Never dull your shine for somebody else's. A quote by Tyra Banks. Don't put yourself down for others to rise up. Do what you have to do and be good at it. It doesn't matter whether or not somebody else is doing as good as you are.

Others' negative Opinions don't matter.Another thing Eleanor Roosevelt (luv her) said was “You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” Yup! Others don't think about you and judge you as often as you think they do. And if they do happen to judge you and express their negative opinions about you, think about why they said what they did and if they said it for constructive criticism, then listen to them But if you think they only said it to make you feel bad, then it doesn't matter. The only things you have to do is don't mind them and keep your distance.
People will not listen to you if you don't listen to yourself.  This is synonymous to "people won't believe in you unless you believe in yourself." It all starts with you and when you realize and believe in your capabilities, people won't have any other choice but to believe in you and with you.

Quote your favorite author. Or singer. or person, in general. I quote inspirational people like Eleanor Roosevelt or Mahatma Gandhi, or my mother because they say the sentences I can never construct and it feels good when you relate to others. So my advice is to take one quote to make you feel better during inferior times and say it to yourself. I swear, it helps.

Regret will haunt you... if you live a life being how others expect you to be, rather than how you really want to be. Life's too short to strain yourself living up to others' expectations. The only expectations you have to live up to are the expectations you make for yourself.

Smile. Yes, when you smile, you are more beautiful than you think.


Up is the only way to go. Don't dwell on the past, they're in the past for a reason. If ever you did something before that made you feel inferior, it's over. Everyday is a new chance to improve yourself and don't waste the valuable moments of everyday regretting what should have been. Instead, focus on what will be.

Vulnerability is a sign of strength. You're human. Showing weaknesses is actually being strong. God knows how hard it is to admit that you're weak. Whenever you open up yourself to people, you're showing them how much courage you have. Don't be fooled into thinking that showing vulnerability is for the weak,  it's actually for the opposite.

Wear clothes you feel good in. Whether it's that out of style sweater or last year's jeans, when you feel pretty/handsome wearing them, then you go wear them wherever you want! Physical confidence is the first step, the rest follows. And if people judge you for what you wear....

Xtra pounds are xtra things to be proud of. Seriously, though. Whether it's extra pounds MORE or extra pounds LESS, it doesn't matter. Whether you're thin or fat, you're a wonderful person and your weight does not define you!

You are loved. By your friends, your family, by the people around you. And if you think you aren't loved by any person (which i doubt), always remember you are loved by God. So that means you do not have any valid reason to hate yourself.

Zuper loved. No really. You're more loved than you think! You're loved by your cat, your dog, your next door neighbor, your imaginary friend... but you know? None of these will matter if you don't love yourself. So go and love yourself, you wonderful human!




And if all else fails, there's always pizza

You make mistakes, but you're not a mistake.
You have problems, but you're not a problem.
You have distractions, but you're not a distraction.
You have accidents, but you're not an accident.
You lie, but you're not a lie.
You're embarrassed, but you're not an embarrassment.
You have imperfections, but you're perfect.

Never think of yourself equal to what you do or what you did. You're worth much more than that. Do not blame yourself for everything that happens in your life and for things that you cannot control. Sometimes things don't turn out to be the way we want them to, but that doesn't give us the permission to hold ourselves accountable for every wrong happening.

If other people blame you for the things you're not responsible for and have no control over, don't dwell on the things they say because they will only make you lonely. Don't let the opinions of other people dictate the way you live your life. Always remember that you can't please everybody, so you might as well please yourself. After all, at the end of the day, the only happiness that's gonna matter is yours. Not anyone else's.

Here are things I always remind myself of whenever I feel like a despicable human being. I just want to share them with you, because I know you have your not-so-good moments too. Become a better person in terms of communicating and interacting with others, to avoid chaos, fights, and arguments. This is a list I came up with, it's nothing official, but I hope it will be as helpful to you as it is to me. ☺

1. Learn to accept your mistakes and apologize if necessary. Most of us take apologies for granted. A mistake doesn't have to be an extensive life-wrecking crime for us to apologize for it. Even a simple bump or an accidental infliction of physical pain requires a simple "sorry". Causing emotional and mental pain, on the other hand, may require much more than mouthing a "sorry". Nevertheless, apologize. Or at least try. We won't always be forgiven, but we never know how badly some people wait for our apologies. NEVER forget to be sincere in every apology you make because an apology that doesn't come from the heart is worse than not apologizing at all.

2. Forgive. If we apologize, then it's just right that we forgive. No matter how heavy the pain they caused us. We don't know how much our forgiveness means to other people. Always remember that God can forgive sinful men and if He can do it, who are we to deprive others of forgiveness?

3. Do not be judgmental. Be curious instead. We don't want to be judged, so we might as well don't judge others. I admit it's not easy to avoid being judgmental, but whenever I feel the need to judge someone, I remind myself that he/she has a reasonable explanation why he/she is that way.

4. Be honest. As cliche as it may sound, honesty is the best policy. Always remember to tell the truth, no matter how much the truth may hurt. Sugarcoating lies is the worst way to make someone feel good. Keep in mind that honesty goes a loooooong way.

5. Put yourself in the other person's shoes. Empathize with other people. Before saying something, always think of how you would feel if others would tell you the same. Be more understanding, more sensitive, and more aware of the feelings of others. You are not the only one who feels pain or sadness.

6. YOU DO NOT HAVE HATERS. Yes others may not like you, but do not refer to them as your "haters". They are merely people who don't like you. Instead of ranting about how awful they are and show the world how unhealthy you've become, try to confront them. In that way, they will see that you don't want to be involved in  a fight where you act as juveniles INDIRECTLY calling each other bitches on social media. And that instead, you want to settle arguments like a decent human being.

7. Be the person you want to meet. This is the simplest way of becoming a better person. Be the friend you want to have. If you want a kind friend, be one. If you want an understanding friend, be one. If you want to meet someone forgiving, be forgiving. Don't ask for anything you wouldn't demand from yourself. If everybody will start to think like this, everything will be a lot easier.

HERE, HAVE SOME PEACE PANCAKES:

I don't know why I've only written about love now.

I've been told a lot about love. On being in love, some say give it a try, some say it's not worth the risk, others say it's wonderful, while others say it hurts. But here's what I say.

Everything is worth the risk. But love is worth much more than that. I think being in love is a wonderful feeling. Being able to tell someone you love them and being told they love you back... it's more than just words. It's two people connecting in ways only they can fathom. I know because I'm in love. With someone who sees me better than I see myself. With someone who thinks I'm more than what I give myself credit for. Sometimes I think it's crazy, but most of the time I just think "gosh, am I blessed."

I've given love a chance before, but I always wound up getting hurt. I shut love out of my life until somebody so persistent crawled his way into this closed shielded heart of mine. I'm sensitive, moody, weird, skeptical, anxious, insecure, and a mess. But despite all that there's one person who sees otherwise. No matter how bad I see myself, I always have somebody to tell me I'm not as bad as I think, and that in fact, I'm actually perfect just the way I am. And this stupid excuse I have for a heart is still having a hard time trying to grasp the concept that I am actually worth loving. That maybe my flaws are actually beautiful to someone. That I'm not always going to get hurt. He made me believe in myself. Once I thought I needed to change. But he made me realize the only thing I needed to change was the thought of changing itself. He saw beauty in an abstract painting that is me.

He was a mess, too. And I think that only made this even better. We are, individually, bursting with negativity. But together we can produce one big ray of sunshine that's enough for both of us. I see beauty in the broken, maybe because I'm broken myself. And I guess I can safely say that we fixed each other, and now we're even sturdier than before. And that's the healthy kind of love. Where both your actions influence each other in better ways. Where both of you improve everyday.

I'm sure glad I'm in love. All the poetry makes sense. All the songs are precise. All the stars shine brighter, and the moon means more. I write about love, but no words can ever be enough to describe how significantly grateful I am.

So here's what I have to say about love: Everybody should give it a shot. Because we never know, accepting an opportunity to love may actually change the way we perceive things. It can actually pave way to the happiness all of us secretly yearn for.