I've always thought about making an A-Z list, and what better topic to write about than improvement of self esteem? I know I always write about this, but I write what I want to write and I want to write about this. LOL. A lot of people suffer about feeling insecure so I hope this helps xx

Accept compliments. Instead of shrugging every time somebody calls you cute, smile and say thanks! say thank you! Not "I know" or "Really?" You'd feel much better, and so would the person who complimented you :)

Be Yourself. Working on self confidence will be useless if you're trying to create an image untrue to who you really are. You can't be confident when you know you're only being liked and applauded because you're pretending to be somebody else. Andre Gide once said that "It's better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not." and we both know he's right.

Consent from you is the root of inferiority and insecurity. According to Eleanor Roosevelt, nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. Do not let anybody dictate the way you see you.

Don't ever compare yourself to others. Don't. Even. Dare. We have individual differences and you should focus on what makes you you instead of what you don't have that he/she does.

Everybody has insecurities. Even Beyonce has them. But have you ever seen her be anything less than ***Flawless?? Point is, you are not the only person who suffers from insecurities so don't feel bad because it's a normal thing, a rite of passage, even. Just don't dwell on it long enough to allow it to take over you.


Flaunt your flaws. You have freckles? Pimples? Extra scars? They look amazing. You weigh more than you want to? So sexaaayyy! You're too short? Too tall? Werk it!

Give yourself some credit. Hey, shout out to you for surviving until today! A round of applause for you! Simple things matter and you should give yourself credit for doing them!

Have courage to speak up. Whenever you think people go too far, tell them to stop. Don't ever feel the need to bottle things up because they will eventually lead to inferiority which later leads to depression! Speak up and let people know when they should shut up.


It's all in the mind. If you believe you are incapable of being a person of value, then there is a huge possibility that you are incapable. However if no matter how hard it is to find a splash of hope, you still believe in yourself and the things you know you can do and overcome, then I can guarantee that you can, and you will be able to do all the things you put your heart into.

Just do it. You don't need permission from everybody to do what you want. You're given the freedom to do anything under the sun and if ever people judge you for doing so, tell them to mind their own bizness.

Know your talents. Knowing that you're good at something is one of the best ways to be confident. We all have talents. You may be good at singing or baking or eating ten hamburgers in fifteen minutes. No matter how bizarre and insignificant you think they are, always remember they're talents and you're best at doing them ;)

Learn to laugh it off. Sometimes we get so insecure because we take everything too seriously. Have some sense of humor! But of course, whenever you think the jokes get too far, speak up and let them know you're not okay with it. We're all sensitive about something anyway.

Make a list of the things you like about yourself. No matter how insecure you are there's surely one thing you like about you. Your hair? Maybe your nails? Or your feet? Your ability to walk on hot coals? Idk. But dig deep into that brain of yours and list down all the  things that you like about you. Always carry the list wherever you go so the next time you feel inferior, you'll be reminded that you're much more than what you think.

Never dull your shine for somebody else's. A quote by Tyra Banks. Don't put yourself down for others to rise up. Do what you have to do and be good at it. It doesn't matter whether or not somebody else is doing as good as you are.

Others' negative Opinions don't matter.Another thing Eleanor Roosevelt (luv her) said was “You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” Yup! Others don't think about you and judge you as often as you think they do. And if they do happen to judge you and express their negative opinions about you, think about why they said what they did and if they said it for constructive criticism, then listen to them But if you think they only said it to make you feel bad, then it doesn't matter. The only things you have to do is don't mind them and keep your distance.
People will not listen to you if you don't listen to yourself.  This is synonymous to "people won't believe in you unless you believe in yourself." It all starts with you and when you realize and believe in your capabilities, people won't have any other choice but to believe in you and with you.

Quote your favorite author. Or singer. or person, in general. I quote inspirational people like Eleanor Roosevelt or Mahatma Gandhi, or my mother because they say the sentences I can never construct and it feels good when you relate to others. So my advice is to take one quote to make you feel better during inferior times and say it to yourself. I swear, it helps.

Regret will haunt you... if you live a life being how others expect you to be, rather than how you really want to be. Life's too short to strain yourself living up to others' expectations. The only expectations you have to live up to are the expectations you make for yourself.

Smile. Yes, when you smile, you are more beautiful than you think.


Up is the only way to go. Don't dwell on the past, they're in the past for a reason. If ever you did something before that made you feel inferior, it's over. Everyday is a new chance to improve yourself and don't waste the valuable moments of everyday regretting what should have been. Instead, focus on what will be.

Vulnerability is a sign of strength. You're human. Showing weaknesses is actually being strong. God knows how hard it is to admit that you're weak. Whenever you open up yourself to people, you're showing them how much courage you have. Don't be fooled into thinking that showing vulnerability is for the weak,  it's actually for the opposite.

Wear clothes you feel good in. Whether it's that out of style sweater or last year's jeans, when you feel pretty/handsome wearing them, then you go wear them wherever you want! Physical confidence is the first step, the rest follows. And if people judge you for what you wear....

Xtra pounds are xtra things to be proud of. Seriously, though. Whether it's extra pounds MORE or extra pounds LESS, it doesn't matter. Whether you're thin or fat, you're a wonderful person and your weight does not define you!

You are loved. By your friends, your family, by the people around you. And if you think you aren't loved by any person (which i doubt), always remember you are loved by God. So that means you do not have any valid reason to hate yourself.

Zuper loved. No really. You're more loved than you think! You're loved by your cat, your dog, your next door neighbor, your imaginary friend... but you know? None of these will matter if you don't love yourself. So go and love yourself, you wonderful human!




And if all else fails, there's always pizza