Building Your Self Esteem: Some Beauty Trends Don’t Suit You, and That’s Okay
Friday, September 16, 2016
In this
generation, it's been all about the trends. In the world of fashion, there are
people teaching you where to buy and how to wear your clothes, people teaching
you how to stock your wardrobe. There are videos and photos and articles of how
you can style yourself, and how you can pull off the latest trends. In another
aspect, there are people teaching you how you should do your hair, people
teaching you how you should prettify your face. People teaching you how you can
be beautiful. Again, there are videos of tutorials to show you how you can
improve your face. Even selfies have standards these days. Before you take a
photo of yourself, you must make sure you have good lighting, nice filters, and
a perfect fish gape.
Why do we feel the need to follow these trends?
Even when we feel uncomfortable in these trends, we tend
to put that aside and still follow them. This is because as humans, we have the
natural tendency to want to please society and to fit in in the sense that we
would be just like every one else. And people are naturally scared of being
different. We are scared of being judged because of being different that's why
we blindly follow these trends.
Why do we sometimes fail to follow these trends?
Wherever you go and whatever you do, there will always be
people who will make you feel inferior. Personally speaking, I feel very
uncomfortable wearing sleeveless clothing because I feel insecure about my
arms. Every time I see a petite girl wearing a decent tank top, I get jealous
of how she can pull it off and not me. I also feel uncomfortable doing a fish
gape in photos because of how my teeth are positioned. I feel awkward wearing
heels because I'm tall enough without them. I'm telling you all these things
because I want you to know that everyone goes through the same thing. We all
have some things we don't like about our bodies, and when there are trends that
tend to emphasize these body parts, we immediately feel insecure because we
can't keep up with them. It's about time you stop stressing about not being
able to keep up with trends and realize that maybe you're better off without
them.
So what can you do?
I'm not saying that you should stop being insecure, I
know that's not easy. What I'm saying is that you only need to accept that some
trends may not look as good on you as it does on others. More importantly, know
that following trends is not as important as you think it is. You shouldn't
feel guilty for falling behind a new trend because following it would make you
uncomfortable. In any case, even in one as light as this, always put your well
being on top of the list.
Cropped tops. High waisted shorts. Leggings. High heels.
Ombre hair colors. Winged eyeliners. Contact lenses.Thick eyebrows. Full lips.
Long nails. Fish gapes. And many, many more. At one point in time, you will
find yourself struggling to keep up with any of these trends. At one point in
time, you might think that you're not pretty enough to pull off thick eyebrows
and full lips like celebrities do. At one point in time, you might feel like
you can't pose right for a selfie. At one point in time, you might think you're
not thin enough or thick enough for the right clothes. When you find yourself
at this point in your life, tell yourself one thing: It's okay. It's okay not
to follow the trend when you feel uncomfortable. It's okay to wear what makes
you feel good. It's okay to wear your make up in any way you want, or not at
all if that's what you prefer. It's okay to wear your hair in a ponytail, or
let it down. It's okay to dye your hair pink if that's what you want. It's also
okay to not dye your hair. It's okay to smile wide in a selfie. It's okay not
to smile in a selfie. It's okay to wear glasses instead of contacts. It's okay
to do things exactly your way. It's okay to refuse trends.
But don't forget that it's also okay to follow these
trends, if that's what makes you comfortable. It's not wrong to watch tutorials
on how to be prettier, how to wear and where to buy clothes. It's not wrong to
seek advice on how we should dress. It's not wrong to follow trends as long as
they don't control your life and become the basis of how value your
beauty. So yes, it's okay to follow these trends... Even if society tells
you that you don't look good in what you're wearing, as long as you think
otherwise, it doesn't really matter.
Bottom line is, always remember that you don't have the obligation to look good for anyone other than
yourself, so go and do whatever the hell you want... as long as you feel
good about what you're wearing and what you're doing, regardless of whether or
not they fit in the trends, eventually your insecurities will find their way
out of your system, you can fully embrace confidence, and you will be genuinely
happy about yourself.
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